The Rise of the Self Love Ring: Would You Marry Yourself?

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This month has seen a big peak in support and recognition of International Women’s Day, with men and women working together to celebrate the amazing women of our past, present and future. With this in mind, I thought I’d talk about a new trend that’s recently emerged for women focused on self-appreciation and self-loving. 

The Self- Love Ring

Yep, there’s a new trend called ‘the self-love ring’ and some women are even choosing to marry themselves with others referring to themselves as in a relationship that’s referred to as ‘sologamy’.  

With the help of Angelic Diamonds, retailers of round engagement rings, we are able to learn all about the history and future of self-love rings…

Where did it originate from? 
In 2016 the popularity of a self-love ring began to rise, with many women
turning to their local jewellery stores in order to make a commitment to themselves.There’s no key evidence to point to a moment when this all began, but these are a few reasons why it may have taken off so rapidly…
  • The rise of social media platforms like
    Snapchat and Instagram can, at times, increase the whole idea of self love.
    I admit, whenever I see perfect beach bodies on my news feed I can sometimes feel a bit deflated, there are many women who post photos of their
    natural selves too, persuading others to do the same. For example,
    there are often trends such as ‘No Make-up Selfies’ (a photo of
    yourself without make-up) and many celebrities participated! It encourage a lot of
    women to love their natural selves. When you think about it, the selfie culture pushes women to appreciate their bodies, as they post photos of
    themselves and receive ‘likes’ as well as comments from their friends, family and followers.  Women like Celeste Barber challenge us to love ourselves fully, and stop comparing our bodies to those of movie stars or fashion icons.

  • Celebrities have long encouraged women to love themselves too, with many famous figures talking about their tough childhoods, as well as how
    they’ve truly learnt to appreciate themselves. Others have discouraged magazines and photographers from photoshopping so women can
    see that their bodies are not, in fact, flawless.
  • There
    has also been a rise in women taking part in more meditation and mindfulness which allows you to be more present within yourself. Research shows this can reduce stress, depression and anxiety, and experts
    are encouraging people to focus on meditation as part of their day, with self-love and taking time out of your day to concentrate on yourself at the centre.  

So, What are Self-Love Rings and What do They Represent?

Some folk refer to them as ‘anti-engagement rings’, but they’re actually meant to represent a commitment to oneself, a dedication that you’ll put ‘you’ first and look after your own personal well-being. They are generally worn on your little finger – representing a ‘pinky promise’ to yourself. Some jewellers even offer specific ‘pinky’ rings, but you can buy them in the form of a smaller engagement ring.  
The people out there practising self-love believe that when you love yourself because it can change the way you act which can positively affect your
relationship. You no longer rely on your partner, or others, to make you happy because you are happy from within. 

Some women even purchase self-love rings with their best friends, focusing on
the importance of friendship and making a pledge to love
yourself.
  
Marrying yourself… 

Some women have taken this concept even further by organising a ceremony of self-marriage; ‘sologamy’. The first sologamous wedding dates back to 1993, when an American woman, Linda Barker, married herself in front of her close friends.  
This type of marriage is not legal (you can’t divorce yourself, claim
legal fees and your marital status won’t change), but it is a
celebration of yourself, and vows can certainly be made. It seems as though more women are taking part in this compared to men, possibly as a
protest against the pressures that they often feel to be in a
relationship or the gender divide we’re all oh-so aware of thanks to Emma Watson and other fantastic pro-gender equality speakers. 

Here are some comments from those women who married themselves:
  • ‘The
    ceremony was a deep act of self-acceptance, saying your commitments out
    loud in front of friends and family solidified them.’ 


  • ‘It was a celebration of the commitment to the health, well-being, and happiness of oneself.’
This kind of thing isn’t just for the single woman either; some women who have created their own ceremonies have partners already, but this day was all about
them and their own self love! 

Due to the popularity of self-love and sologamy, a company has been created called I
Married Me, which offers wedding supplies to one-person ceremonies. I imagine they’re doing very well with this venture in the current world we live in!

We must remember that demonstrating to yourself that you’re confident and empowered doesn’t need to come in the form of a ring. There are other ways to show yourself love – treat yourself to some clothing that you’ve been wanting for a while, have a spa day, read a good book or just invest some time into you!

I think everyone everywhere could do with giving themselves more love, time and attention. Not only would we all feel happier, we’d be more productive and the world would surely be a better place.  

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